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Break Up!

  • By Deevyana
  • 11 Jan, 2022

Things you can do to help yourself after a break up.

   The word “break up” is commonly associated with either pain or freedom. It can also mean having your emotions all over the place. Breakup comes with heartbreak, it does for most people. Chances are, one might feel like it's the end of the world or even think there’s never going to be anyone else. It's going to be painful waking up knowing that things aren’t going to be the same anymore. The feeling of devastation and disappointment is real, and you might feel them all very deeply.


Common feelings after a break up:

  • Lonely
  • Isolation
  • Loss of appetite
  • Heavy heart
  • Constant crying
  • Sadness

Note: If the feelings and distress persist for longer than 2 weeks and it's affecting your functioning, please seek out professional mental health support.

   Remember, your feelings are valid. Feel it all, feel it all deeply. Grieve as long as you need. Let it all out because someday you are going to look back at those moments and smirk. You are going to get over it all, each and every one of it. At the moment it may feel like that's all there is to feel, but slowly and surely at some point, you will wake yourself out of it. Get out there, discover what makes you happy. This is the time for self love. There’s going to be changes in your routine and your lifestyle, but that's okay, changes can be good for one.


What you can do to help yourself:

  • Get a friend or family to talk to, or seek professional mental health support.
  • Get yourself out of bed and do what you like.
  • Find a hobby and do what you love.
  • Prioritize yourself and your wellbeing.

   Pain is temporary. The never ending silent cries in the shower and at night in bed will stop. The intense pain in the chest will eventually stop too. The constant wondering of how to make it work or why the relationship didn’t work will come to an end. It may take weeks,months, maybe even years, but it will. Continue working on yourself, your happiness and your wellbeing. Happiness and joy may seem very distant, but that's temporary too. The journey will be full of ups and downs, but rest assured, it will be exciting. Remember, you are not alone. Everything happens for a reason, you may not see why at the moment, but eventually you will.

   There may be times where you randomly get memories from a song you are listening to, a movie, etc. and it might affect you but that's okay. It's normal to feel that way when coming across moments you truly cherish. Instead of letting it consume you, you can try to be thankful for the moment instead. Some may choose to avoid it all, the place, the song, the movie, but it's better to face something than to avoid it. Face your fears they say because, “Do the thing you fear to do and keep doing it, that's the quickest and surest way to ever yet discovered to conquer fear.”-Dale Carnegie


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